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15 tips on how to manage holiday coordination with your toxic ex
One issue that's even more uncomfortable for mums with a toxic ex than a root canal at the dentist is the annual coordination of contact times during the holidays. It's an utterly fantastic opportunity for your Ex to bind you in an energy cord. Now it's up to...
Why co-parenting with a toxic ex can’t work
Co-parenting means that both parents raise the children together in the same direction, with the same values, and with mutual respect for each other's individual differences. This is the absolute ideal for the children. It gives them clarity and support and...
How you, as a mother, can strengthen your bond with your child, even if he or she has been manipulated by the narcissistic ex
Do you know this? Your child comes back from seeing the toxic narcissistic ex and, depending on his or her age, is cranky, whiny, angry and thin-skinned or even dismissive? And your heart bleeds because you remember how your time with the ex was when you...
How I became strong – and how YOU can do it too!
Have you also asked yourself from time to time, what's it like for Heidi at home? Who is she, of all people, who thinks she can give me tips on how to become strong again despite my toxic ex-partner? Or even to want to coach me? Well, basically I am just as...
How to achieve your financial freedom from the toxic ex
"Financial freedom from the toxic ex? How in the world is that going to happen? My ex doesn't pay child support, I have to live on welfare, and now I've collected another rent increase!" Is that what you're thinking right now? Then please read on. Or maybe...
How you can tell on the first date if a man is a narcissist
OK. So, after a long period of introspection, you have decided to let a new man into your life again. Wonderful! I am happy for you about this another milestone in your life after the relationship with the toxic ex. After all, you don't want the guy to be the...
How to find your way out of the victim role
Yes, narcissistic-toxic ex-partners can fuck us mothers up. Depending on the degree of their personality disorder, with an unimaginable destructive rage. I believed for a while that I had found my "champion " in my ex-partner, the father of my son. After all,...
How can you protect your child when you are still full of fear of the child’s father?
Many moms come to me asking how they can possibly protect their child from this man. "This man is so abysmally evil, and no one in court has recognized that. Nor does anyone care that this is a narcissist. And yet our little child has to be in contact now....
Why you have it easier as a non-academic
If you've just separated from your toxic Ex, or you're right in the middle of so much nonsense with child welfare services, court, or even appraisals, it's very likely that you're thinking to yourself: "How am I going to manage this?" If your self-esteem is...
10 beliefs about family court that you should get rid of as quickly as possible
Are you aware of your beliefs regarding the family court and your role in the proceedings? It's quite possible that you haven't thought about this yet because you've accepted these sentences as truth. But that's no longer the case now! Below you can see the...
Hello, my name is Heidi!
Single mom with a child and a dog. I coach moms with toxic exes and support you in how to be strong, calm and confident in your challenges with your ex. More about me ...