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How to find your way out of the victim role
Yes, narcissistic-toxic ex-partners can fuck us mothers up. Depending on the degree of their personality disorder, with an unimaginable destructive rage. I believed for a while that I had found my "champion " in my ex-partner, the father of my son. After all,...
How can you protect your child when you are still full of fear of the child’s father?
Many moms come to me asking how they can possibly protect their child from this man. "This man is so abysmally evil, and no one in court has recognized that. Nor does anyone care that this is a narcissist. And yet our little child has to be in contact now....
Why you have it easier as a non-academic
If you've just separated from your toxic Ex, or you're right in the middle of so much nonsense with child welfare services, court, or even appraisals, it's very likely that you're thinking to yourself: "How am I going to manage this?" If your self-esteem is...
10 beliefs about family court that you should get rid of as quickly as possible
Are you aware of your beliefs regarding the family court and your role in the proceedings? It's quite possible that you haven't thought about this yet because you've accepted these sentences as truth. But that's no longer the case now! Below you can see the...
How to start breaking free from the narcissistic ex
Okay, how can you get away from your narcissistic ex if you have one or even more children with him? It's easier than you think! And quite difficult if you don't yet allow yourself to think differently from those around you who have their own cliché ideas of...
War or Peace?
Be honest, sweetheart: How do you talk and write about your relationship with your toxic ex after the breakup? Are you talking about the “war with your ex” or, to put it bluntly, the “war of the roses”, do you shoot off a “cannon” every now and then, does a...
From being afraid to being brave – is that possible with a narcissist for a co-parent?
If you come from a toxic narcissistic relationship where you were manipulated and emotionally abused, it is very likely that you have built up a great deal of fear over time. For a pathological narcissist, it is of utmost importance that no one be allowed to...
Are you in a narcissistic relationship? A self-test.
This article is for all the moms out there who are still living with their children's father, but are very unhappy and keep wondering whether or not to separate. I want to be absolutely sure that we understand each other. That you know what I'm talking about...
How to better draw the line between yourself and your toxic Ex
How do you properly draw the line between yourself and other people? Are you confident that you can do so well enough? Or does this correspond more to your current reality? The toxic ex keeps calling during your contact time. Or he just comes to your...
When your preteen child is stressed about your toxic Ex
Are you familiar with this situation? Your 11-year-old son - in the middle of prepuberty - was the most ardent and loyal admirer of the child's father not long ago, and now he comes home more and more often and is mega frustrated and disappointed. What's...
Hello, my name is Heidi!
Single mom with a child and a dog. I coach moms with toxic exes and support you in how to be strong, calm and confident in your challenges with your ex. More about me ...