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Don’t believe your girlfriend!
How good it is for a woman to have a good friend to talk to in this phase of life - after the breakup with the toxic Ex and later, when the legal proceedings cause great turmoil in a mother's life. Do you have such a good friend? Then I'm very happy for you,...
Can you prevent your child from becoming a narcissist too?
This anxious question comes up from time to time with my customers and with the women in my Facebook group. What they would like most is a guide that they can work through step by step. Something they can hold on to and orient themselves by. You don't want...
If the child does not want to go to the contact weekend
In recent weeks, I've talked about three classic situations in which we mothers wish the contact weekend away, because we don't want it and it hurts us deeply personally. But what do we do when the child doesn't want to go to daddy? We ourselves can still...
What you can do if your ex is trying to drive you into financial ruin
Do you have the feeling - or has he already told you - that he wants to ruin you financially? Now it's time to keep calm! Absolutely. First of all, take a sober look at what kind of toxic ex-partner you are dealing with: Is yours more of a lazy...
Why you should never voluntarily go into mediation with your narcissistic ex
...and what you should insist on when it is ordered from above. I've always been a big fan of mediation. I think it's a fantastic idea to bring a neutral third party into a conflict and, if that person is really well trained and knows his or her stuff, to be...
The ultimate trick to forgive your toxic ex so you can feel better again
In my German Facebook group, there is a new impulse from me every day, which is intended to invite thought and reflection. I have a very specific purpose with this: so that mothers who have to share custody with a toxic ex-partner refocus on what moves them...
Why your attitude in court is so damn important
Why is it so difficult to adopt a sovereign attitude in front of the court - you shouldn't have to fear anything, because you haven't done anything wrong? Let me tell you a typical story that illustrates the classic procedure after a separation from a toxic...
How a mom can avoid getting bullied in court
I sometimes find it quite outrageous what strangers assume when they judge a mother. Especially in family court proceedings. At the moment when a mother has to make a decision whether to leave the toxic relationship or not, she is making a decision for...
Everyday trouble with the Ex: How you can stop dancing to his tune
You are familiar with everyday hassles with your toxic Ex, right? But do you think you're dancing to his tune or not? Maybe you're thinking, "Well, of course I'm not dancing to his tune! I've still got it!" But wait a minute. There's a situation or two you...
Is the children’s photo album also a contentious issue with you?
Today I would like to devote myself to a very special, tiny little aspect: the photo album that documents your child's growing up. Tiny little aspect? Hardly. Because behind it lies emotional explosive power. And possibilities of control by the ex. It can...
Hello, my name is Heidi!
Single mom with a child and a dog. I coach moms with toxic exes and support you in how to be strong, calm and confident in your challenges with your ex. More about me ...