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Is the children’s photo album also a contentious issue with you?
Today I would like to devote myself to a very special, tiny little aspect: the photo album that documents your child's growing up. Tiny little aspect? Hardly. Because behind it lies emotional explosive power. And possibilities of control by the ex. It can...
How Toxic is Your Ex?
Before you get into the following type analysis: No, not every ex-partner of a mother is toxic! I have to emphasize this again and again, because I write on this blog only and exclusively for a very specific target group of readers. I focus my writing...
How to become a brave mother
Do you actually feel brave right now? Or are you comparing yourself with other mothers who seem to be in a similar situation to you and who seem braver from the outside, and you wonder how they managed it? Ha! After my years of experience with moms with toxic...
Counter-parenting: when the Ex does everything he can to sabotage your parenting efforts
In this article, I want to vent about the different parenting styles - co-parenting, parallel parenting, and counter-parenting - and help you find a clear point of view towards your toxic Ex and other outsiders. You've probably heard of "co-parenting." It's...
When your whole family turns against you after you break up with your toxic Ex
You've finally gotten it together and left the guy, hoping for support from your own family - and fiddlesticks! Your mother shakes her head and asks how you can do this to your child! Your father asks you, How you can afford everything now, without financial...
Are you wondering right now what sort of harassment your Ex will come up with next?
Does this sound like a familiar feeling? Every day, you're sitting in front of the computer or with your smartphone in your hand - just waiting for the next spiteful email from him. Or maybe you're planning a vacation and you can't sleep at night because...
What Your Toxic Ex Thinks About You
Do you ever wonder what your toxic Ex really thinks about you? There he stands in front of you so full of hate and makes you some reproaches, which you can hardly grasp, because they lack any basis - and every time you are shaken, because it was so wonderful...
When the narcissistic father manipulates the child – what is the best thing to do then?
Manipulation of the children by the toxic Ex-partner is as certain as the amen in the church. Every affected mother might have heard of the following: "Tell your mother that she gets enough maintenance from me, she should go ahead and buy you those expensive...
When you cannot lose as a mother
Breaking up with a highly toxic ex is no walk in the rose garden. That much is certain. Every now and then, mothers who find me only after they have already gone through a veritable odyssey in court write to me saying, "I wish I had found you right at the...
When you become estranged from your own friends
Do you feel that there is no one left in your circle of friends who understands you and stands by you in this biggest crisis of your life? Even if you still meet up with a friend now and then, or get invited to parties? Do you look around and realize you've...
Hello, my name is Heidi!
Single mom with a child and a dog. I coach moms with toxic exes and support you in how to be strong, calm and confident in your challenges with your ex. More about me ...