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My 10 ultimate tips for effective communication with a toxic Ex
Communicating with a toxic ex is always a challenge for us mothers. If there were no children involved, it would be ridiculously easy: just delete him from the phone book (or block him from xxx), block him on Whatsapp and Facebook, and never make the...
So You Finally Decide to Leave
So. Now you are very sure, after everything you have heard or read about me and also what your environment has confirmed to you, that you have a toxic partner. And you realize that it can't go on like this But moving out? You dread that. The house is so nice...
How to slowly but surely free yourself from emotional entanglement with your toxic ex
Sweetheart, let me ask you a question right at the beginning: Do you still think about your Ex very often? Is there not a day when you don't rack your brain over your situation or his offenses? Then this article is perfect for you! If you've been following me...
How to maintain your friendship in times of crisis
Whoa – now you are probably looking with wide eyes! Why – should I still take care that my friends remain loyal to me? Don't they have to actively approach me and support me and be there without me having to ask for it? You know that I am separated from a...
What do you do when your toxic ex manipulates your toddler?
It is always bad when a child is manipulated by a toxic ex. As a mother, you don't know exactly what your ex has said about you, but after the visit, you notice how angry your child is with you. This is especially noticeable during puberty, when the child...
It’s a trap! no. 3: If I directly respond to all his accusations via email, then he will give up
This belief is a mental trap, especially at the beginning of the separation phase, when we are particularly keen to do everything right and prove that we are cooperative and definitely do not fit the cliché of the child-depriving witch. Let me first break...
It’s a trap! no. 2: If I don’t set him any boundaries and make demands, then he’ll probably do it himself because it’s best for the child
We continue with the mini-series on the topic of beliefs. Have you read the No. 1 belief yet? If not, then go and do it right now. Today, we are talking about a similar belief that mothers have, especially shortly before or after the breakup. It is closely...
It’s a trap! No. 1: If I am always nice to him, then he will be nice to me too
With this blog article, I am starting a three-part mini-series with belief-hammering that, as a mother with a toxic Ex, can severely hinder you and lead you to really big, fat mistakes that will burn heavily on your soul for years to come. Let's start with...
What to do if you lose custody of your child to your Ex?
You know that I always try to encourage you with my articles. Even in the biggest everyday struggles with the Ex, to keep your head up, to train yourself to be more relaxed and not to always jump on the Ex's antics in everyday life. I want to show you ways in...
Do you feel sorry for your toxic Ex?
“Whaaat? Heidi, are you crazy? The man was so mean to me in the relationship and is now doing everything he can to make my everyday life with the child a living hell, taking me to court wherever he can - why would I feel sorry for him?” Most mothers who...