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Why your attitude in court is so damn important
Why is it so difficult to adopt a sovereign attitude in front of the court - you shouldn't have to fear anything, because you haven't done anything wrong? Let me tell you a typical story that illustrates the classic procedure after a separation from a toxic...
How a mom can avoid getting bullied in court
I sometimes find it quite outrageous what strangers assume when they judge a mother. Especially in family court proceedings. At the moment when a mother has to make a decision whether to leave the toxic relationship or not, she is making a decision for...
Everyday trouble with the Ex: How you can stop dancing to his tune
You are familiar with everyday hassles with your toxic Ex, right? But do you think you're dancing to his tune or not? Maybe you're thinking, "Well, of course I'm not dancing to his tune! I've still got it!" But wait a minute. There's a situation or two you...
Is the children’s photo album also a contentious issue with you?
Today I would like to devote myself to a very special, tiny little aspect: the photo album that documents your child's growing up. Tiny little aspect? Hardly. Because behind it lies emotional explosive power. And possibilities of control by the ex. It can...
How Toxic is Your Ex?
Before you get into the following type analysis: No, not every ex-partner of a mother is toxic! I have to emphasize this again and again, because I write on this blog only and exclusively for a very specific target group of readers. I focus my writing...
How to become a brave mother
Do you actually feel brave right now? Or are you comparing yourself to other mothers who appear to be in similar situations, seeming braver from the outside, wondering how they managed it? Ha! After my years of experience with moms with toxic Ex partners let...
Counter-parenting: when the Ex does everything he can to sabotage your parenting efforts
In this article, I want to vent about the different parenting styles - co-parenting, parallel parenting, and counter-parenting - and help you find a clear point of view towards your toxic Ex and other outsiders. You've probably heard of "co-parenting." It's...
When your whole family turns against you after you break up with your toxic Ex
You've finally gotten it together and left the guy, hoping for support from your own family - and fiddlesticks! Your mother shakes her head and asks how you can do this to your child! Your father asks you, How you can afford everything now, without financial...
Are you wondering right now what sort of harassment your Ex will come up with next?
Does this sound like a familiar feeling? Every day, you're sitting in front of the computer or with your smartphone in your hand - just waiting for the next spiteful email from him. Or maybe you're planning a vacation and you can't sleep at night because...
What Your Toxic Ex Thinks About You
Do you ever wonder what your toxic Ex really thinks about you? There he stands in front of you so full of hate and makes you some reproaches, which you can hardly grasp, because they lack any basis - and every time you are shaken, because it was so wonderful...
Hello, my name is Heidi!
Single mom with a child and a dog. I coach moms with toxic exes and support you in how to be strong, calm and confident in your challenges with your ex. More about me ...