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How many more concessions will you make?
In this article, I would like to take a closer look at a current "concession level" with you. On a level from 1 (I'm tough, Heidi - he doesn't get anything from me!) to 10 (I've stopped counting) - how do you rate yourself? Well? I say: If you have a very...
How you know you’ve found the right partner this time – and not another narcissist
Perhaps the idea is still totally absurd at the moment because the aftermath of your last relationship with your narcissistic ex is still weighing on you. Not to mention the fact that the toxic father of your child is probably still stalking you on a daily...
Do you need a new relationship?
Most of the moms in my Club of Courageous Moms, whom I then work with, don't even dream of entering into a new relationship at the beginning. They still need to process what happened with the previous one! And with the toxic Ex still so present in everyday...
Why you should definitely look for a lawyer, even if you think it might escalate the dispute
Lots of moms I connect with, either on Facebook or during coaching consultations, share a common worry: "If I get a lawyer, my (soon-to-be) ex will lose it, and things between us will only get worse!" This thought alone contains the whole terrible truth. If...
Your Ex can go fuck himself! Or can’t he?
Does your toxic Ex still get to you, or is he still hanging around, Sweetheart? Well, what do you think? It's quite possible that you've already read a lot on my blog and therefore know where I'd like to take you mentally: Towards an attitude of a more...
Why you shouldn’t let the help system unsettle you in mediation
So, have you already been through everything? Parental counseling, parenting advice, mediation, therapy and, last but not least, the youth welfare office or the nice priest you poured your heart out to - have I forgotten anything? If you split up and you...
Making the right decisions
In this blog article, I want to talk to you about being able to make decisions. And about the fact that YOU are the one steering the ship of your life and no one else is responsible for it. Do you remember the corona years? When the whole thing started in...
To all 30-something young women: Don’t make these mistakes!
Sometimes it would be wishful if every big city had a Speakers' Corner like London's in Hyde Park. Anyone can stand there and give a speech without formal announcement. Apart from the Queen and the royal family, everything can be discussed. Aside from the...
What about grandma and grandpa?
Yeah, what actually happens to the grandma and grandpa stuff after you break up with your toxic ex? There are sooo many levels of frustration in this area that I wonder why I haven't written several blog articles on the subject. Of course, when it comes to...
The best way to go through with your separation, even if you’re scared
This blog article is for you if you have been going round in circles and don't know the smartest way to separate from your toxic, presumably narcissistic partner and move out with the children. I can well imagine that you have already read a lot in various...
Hello, my name is Heidi!
Single mom with a child and a dog. I coach moms with toxic exes and support you in how to be strong, calm and confident in your challenges with your ex. More about me ...