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Why fear shouldn’t be your answer to his threat
"If you leave, I'll take your kids away from you!" I don't want to know how many moms who are desperate and heartbroken in their current marriage or relationship hear this exact phrase. Are you one of them? Welcome to the club! Then there's an acquaintance...
The only way you should deal with narcissism – if you want to be happy again
I don't read them all anymore - those bad stories about narcissistic abuse. Stories about how men manipulate and psychologically abuse their wives. It's killing me. It won't let me go. For hours or even days, I have to think about it. Because I get...
What it REALLY means if you become a Gray Rock
Have you ever heard of the Gray Rock Method? It refers to one’s inner attitude - a really effective way to protect yourself from the psychological attacks of your ex in everyday life after the breakup. You are a rock. Motionless. Indestructible. Protected...
The top 10 mistakes a single mom can make with a narcissistic ex in the first year of separation
When you have a narcissistic ex who also happens to be your child's father, you're going to make some mistakes. No one is immune from making mistakes. Neither am I. After all, we're all just people, and people do make mistakes. That's ok. Mistakes also have...
Giving up is not an option – or is it?
Do you also think to yourself from time to time that this is all very tedious with your toxic ex and that you don't have the strength to fight anymore? Give up? Then you look at your sweet child and think - but I have to do it, for my child! You are also...
When the Next is the Driving Force Behind the Noise
It's been a long time since I've written about Next, I realized, probably because it's not a huge topic for all moms with toxic exes. In many cases, the mothers even long for the next because they assume that the ex will finally leave them alone. Far from...
When you have to change lawyers for the second or even third time
There you are, sitting in the courtroom, and you can't believe it - you feel like your back is against the wall and your lawyer next to you can't get his mouth open! Do you have to change lawyers? He made such a good impression at the meeting! Especially...
How to best deal with your manipulated child
Sweetheart, you must be brave right now, provided you've only been following me for a short time and you're still very freshly separated from your toxic narcissistic Ex: It is as certain as the amen in the church that your Ex will manipulate the child you...
What to do when your manipulated child is called to testify in family court?
Sweetheart, one of the first things a mother with a toxic Ex must learn after separation is the art of letting go. Letting go of all that is out of her control. What she can no longer control. Now we moms are so hardwired anyway to organize and check on...
How to get your narcissistic ex to do what YOU want
I can't even count how many times I get emails or read posts where a stunned mother with a toxic narcissistic Ex writes that she desperately needs tips on how to get the irresponsible Ex to do what is right for the child. Have you been wondering the same...
Hello, my name is Heidi!
Single mom with a child and a dog. I coach moms with toxic exes and support you in how to be strong, calm and confident in your challenges with your ex. More about me ...