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What if your toxic Ex refuses to sign?
I've lost count of the times moms with a toxic ex-partner have approached me with the same dilemma: "Heidi, what should I do? My ex refuses to sign his consent, and the daycare around the corner is highly sought after. I'm worried about losing my spot and not...
Children’s birthdays, school enrollment, communion, etc. – how does it work with a toxic ex?
Sweetheart, if you've been following me for any length of time, you know that you should have as little contact as possible with your ex-partner if they are toxic. That way, you can protect yourself better. You may have at least one child with him, but that...
What’s your wisest legal strategy moving forward?
Have you recently endured your first marathon court hearing, received an unfavorable decision, and now find yourself pondering which legal strategy to take on next? Which court application would be prudent? Or perhaps you've agreed to a settlement, feeling...
3 reasons why you should move out of the home you shared with your toxic Ex
In one of my previous blog articles, I talked about why you shouldn't allow visitation to happen in your new home. But what if it's not you who has moved out with the children, but your Ex? I'd better say it straight away: in that case, find your own place...
What can you do if your toxic ex alienates your child from you?
I get requests all the time from mothers who ask me for advice on what they can do when their toxic ex is manipulating their child to the point of alienation, so much so that the child is avoiding contact with the mother altogether. This is simply the worst...
Why you should not allow visitation with your toxic ex to happen at your house
I did it too - I allowed visitation to happen in my apartment back then, in the early days. When I particularly wanted to prove how agreeable I was and how much I cared about my son having a relationship with his father. And how I would do anything for a...
How a blended family can work after separating from a toxic Ex
So, my dear, are you still at the stage where you tiredly brush off my inquiries about your dating life because you're still recovering from your last relationship? Then this article is not for you. This blog post is for you if you've found your dream...
Is your toxic Ex’s Next a better match for him than you?
I've already written about your Ex's Next and my recommendation on the best way to deal with your Ex's new partner several times - for instance, in this article here. I have to come back to this topic now because there is another issue that I would like to...
The 50-50 alternating custody schedule as a narcissistic strategy
Can he take the children away from me? Suspected narcissistic fathers like to intimidate their (ex-)partners with this threat again and again. As a rule, the standard answer is: No. We could actually close this topic with that, but I notice that this topic...
Why indifference towards your Ex should be your top goal
On our journey after breaking up with a toxic ex-partner, we usually go through several emotional stages: from deep despair and sadness to helplessness and anger. This anger then often turns into an exuberant urge to ridicule the narcissist and fantasize...
Hello, my name is Heidi!
Single mom with a child and a dog. I coach moms with toxic exes and support you in how to be strong, calm and confident in your challenges with your ex. More about me ...