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How to maintain your friendship in times of crisis
Whoa – now you are probably looking at me with wide eyes! Why – should I still take care that my friends remain loyal to me? Don't they have to actively approach me and support me and be there without me having to ask for it? You know that I am separated from...
What do you do when your toxic ex manipulates your toddler?
It is always bad when a child is manipulated by a toxic ex. As a mother, you don't know exactly what your ex has said about you, but after the visit, you notice how angry your child is with you. This is especially noticeable during puberty, when the child...
It’s a trap! no. 3: If I directly respond to all his accusations via email, then he will give up
This belief is a mental trap, especially at the beginning of the separation phase, when we are particularly keen to do everything right and prove that we are cooperative and definitely do not fit the cliché of the child-depriving witch. Let me first break...
It’s a trap! no. 2: If I don’t set him any boundaries and make demands, then he’ll probably do it himself because it’s best for the child
We continue with the mini-series on the topic of beliefs. Have you read the No. 1 belief yet? If not, then go and do it right now. Today, we are talking about a similar belief that mothers have, especially shortly before or after the breakup. It is closely...
It’s a trap! No. 1: If I am always nice to him, then he will be nice to me too
With this blog article, I am starting a three-part mini-series with belief-hammering that, as a mother with a toxic Ex, can severely hinder you and lead you to really big, fat mistakes that will burn heavily on your soul for years to come. Let's start with...
What to do if you lose custody of your child to your Ex?
You know that I always try to encourage you with my articles. Even in the biggest everyday struggles with the Ex, to keep your head up, to train yourself to be more relaxed and not to always jump on the Ex's antics in everyday life. I want to show you ways in...
Do you feel sorry for your toxic Ex?
“Whaaat? Heidi, are you crazy? The man was so mean to me in the relationship and is now doing everything he can to make my everyday life with the child a living hell, taking me to court wherever he can - why would I feel sorry for him?” Most mothers who...
Ways out of fear: How to become braver, even if your Ex is a real devil
You know that feeling when anxiety is your constant companion? If you have a toxic ex-partner, it's probably all too familiar. During the relationship, you were constantly wondering what mood he was going to come home in. Did the conversation with his boss...
Are you ready for a new love?
If you've been reading my blog for a while, then you've probably developed a feel for the way I generally tackle problems: direct, pragmatic, with both feet on the ground - and with a hell of a lot of empathy for you and all readers who are currently at...
If your Ex’s parenting style is really annoying – here’s how to stay cool
What can already be a challenge in a functioning relationship becomes a major feat after a break-up: How to get the different parenting styles down to a common denominator? And - is that even necessary? I don't know how you feel about parenting, but I'm just...
Hello, my name is Heidi!
Single mom with a child and a dog. I coach moms with toxic exes and support you in how to be strong, calm and confident in your challenges with your ex. More about me ...