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Making the right decisions
In this blog article, I want to talk to you about being able to make decisions. And about the fact that YOU are the one steering the ship of your life and no one else is responsible for it. Do you remember the corona years? When the whole thing started in...
To all 30-something young women: Don’t make these mistakes!
Sometimes it would be wishful if every big city had a Speakers' Corner like London's in Hyde Park. Anyone can stand there and give a speech without formal announcement. Apart from the Queen and the royal family, everything can be discussed. Aside from the...
What about grandma and grandpa?
Yeah, what actually happens to the grandma and grandpa stuff after you break up with your toxic ex? There are sooo many levels of frustration in this area that I wonder why I haven't written several blog articles on the subject. Of course, when it comes to...
The best way to go through with your separation, even if you’re scared
This blog article is for you if you have been going round in circles and don't know the smartest way to separate from your toxic, presumably narcissistic partner and move out with the children. I can well imagine that you have already read a lot in various...
What if your toxic Ex refuses to sign?
I've lost count of the times moms with a toxic ex-partner have approached me with the same dilemma: "Heidi, what should I do? My ex refuses to sign his consent, and the daycare around the corner is highly sought after. I'm worried about losing my spot and not...
Children’s birthdays, school enrollment, communion, etc. – how does it work with a toxic ex?
Sweetheart, if you've been following me for any length of time, you know that you should have as little contact as possible with your ex-partner if they are toxic. That way, you can protect yourself better. You may have at least one child with him, but that...
What’s your wisest legal strategy moving forward?
Have you recently endured your first marathon court hearing, received an unfavorable decision, and now find yourself pondering which legal strategy to take on next? Which court application would be prudent? Or perhaps you've agreed to a settlement, feeling...
3 reasons why you should move out of the home you shared with your toxic Ex
In one of my previous blog articles, I talked about why you shouldn't allow visitation to happen in your new home. But what if it's not you who has moved out with the children, but your Ex? I'd better say it straight away: in that case, find your own place...
What can you do if your toxic ex alienates your child from you?
I get requests all the time from mothers who ask me for advice on what they can do when their toxic ex is manipulating their child to the point of alienation, so much so that the child is avoiding contact with the mother altogether. This is simply the worst...
Why you should not allow visitation with your toxic ex to happen at your house
I did it too - I allowed visitation to happen in my apartment back then, in the early days. When I particularly wanted to prove how agreeable I was and how much I cared about my son having a relationship with his father. And how I would do anything for a...
Hello, my name is Heidi!
Single mom with a child and a dog. I coach moms with toxic exes and support you in how to be strong, calm and confident in your challenges with your ex. More about me ...