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When you watch your child make a huge mistake
Recently, the family courts have established the requirement that the child in question be heard in a custody dispute and that the child's wishes so expressed be given great weight in the decision. This is where we mothers with a toxic Ex become fearful,...
Dude, get out of that toxic downward spiral and get your energy back!
Today I have something very special - and for once not for my target group of mothers with toxic Ex-partners, but for men! I am relatively often approached by empathetic men who ask me for advice on what to do with their narcissistic child mothers. And also...
10 tricks to get yourself out of a deep hole
Sweetheart, do you believe that you yourself have all the power to get you out of a deep mental hole? No? Well - I do! And do you know why? Because I have experienced that it works. On myself and on my clients. You can work through the list in order or just...
Why the joint physical custody model is a big NO
Many of the mothers with a toxic Ex partner who find me at some point realize that it was a big mistake to have gone for a trial of the joint physical custody, or shared residential custody, model right at the beginning of the separation. The trial joint...
Open letter to all guardians ad litem
Are you a guardian ad litem? Then this article is for you. Because I need to talk to you. Just between us, from woman to woman: Are you satisfied with your work? Are you satisfied with the job you have at the family court as a powerful associate judge? Is it...
Why you should watch what you say
Tell me, sweetheart, how do you talk? What do you tell others, how do you talk all day? Have you noticed that yet? If the waves of your toxic ex are very high right now, then it's very likely that you're talking to others about it accordingly. You know by now...
What going to the barber unarranged has to do with emotional violence
Have you been in this situation? Your little child comes home from the visit and his hair is cut short? In the best case, it's been cut by a professional and at least it looks good - in the worst case, the Next has dared to take on this task that is too big...
Why Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) is Bullshit
Sweetheart, it's that time again: this article on parental alienation syndrome, or PAS, is going to be heavy. Please read it only if you are stable enough to take in information that will help you to clarify things. What I don't want to achieve is that you -...
“Mom doesn’t want to see you anymore” – How alienation by the toxic child father works and what you can do about it
First of all, this blog post on alienation does not discuss the "official" Parental Alienation Syndrome, or PAS for short, which I have already discussed in detail in this article. In this article, I would like to address the deliberate alienation caused by a...
How to get over your fear of the next year
Are you afraid of the next few months? Whether we are now reaching the end of the calendar year or you are on the verge of separation; and even if you have been separated for some time and your toxic Ex and father of your children has just made a massive...
Hello, my name is Heidi!
Single mom with a child and a dog. I coach moms with toxic exes and support you in how to be strong, calm and confident in your challenges with your ex. More about me ...