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Is your toxic Ex’s Next a better match for him than you?
I've already written about your Ex's Next and my recommendation on the best way to deal with your Ex's new partner several times - for instance, in this article here. I have to come back to this topic now because there is another issue that I would like to...
The 50-50 alternating custody schedule as a narcissistic strategy
Can he take the children away from me? Suspected narcissistic fathers like to intimidate their (ex-)partners with this threat again and again. As a rule, the standard answer is: No. We could actually close this topic with that, but I notice that this topic...
Why indifference towards your Ex should be your top goal
On our journey after breaking up with a toxic ex-partner, we usually go through several emotional stages: from deep despair and sadness to helplessness and anger. This anger then often turns into an exuberant urge to ridicule the narcissist and fantasize...
The best way to prepare for an expert assessment
Are you about to have an assessment soon and are already terrified - because on the one hand you have no idea what to expect, and on the other hand you have read more and more horror stories about mothers who have had to go through an assessment procedure?...
When your toxic Ex is suddenly nice to you
Do you believe in change? Do you believe that people can change, i.e. become insightful and then make every effort to improve their circumstances and their lives and make up for past mistakes? Who don't just pay lip service to it, but actually move forward...
Why the age of your child doesn’t determine whether the stress with your toxic ex stops
Without a doubt - the stress of dealing with a toxic Ex and the fear of losing the child over a custody battle is highest the younger the child is. The protective instinct is particularly strong at the beginning of our motherhood. When a child cannot yet...
How your next year can be nothing short of amazing
Strong statement, right? But yes, it works! And in this article I'll show you how you can free your head, your heart and your soul step by step from your current situation if the past year wasn't exactly great. I know some good ways to get in the mood for a...
How to best prepare yourself mentally for the holidays
It's that time again - Christmas is coming! For some moms - if not the vast majority - of those who have a toxic ex-partner, this is the most difficult time of year. If you only broke up this year, it will be your first set of holidays without him. At least...
When your child thinks his toxic dad is a superhero
I bet that every mother of a primary school to preteen child knows this scenario. If the child has a good relationship with his father, he comes home after being with Dad and raves about what great things his father has done. He can basically turn water into...
The real reason why setting boundaries is so difficult
Do you also find it difficult to set boundaries and then defend them? Welcome to the club! Establishing boundaries and defending them again and again is a very tiring business, especially if the other person to whom the boundaries are set continues to act as...
Hello, my name is Heidi!
Single mom with a child and a dog. I coach moms with toxic exes and support you in how to be strong, calm and confident in your challenges with your ex. More about me ...