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Claiming the right to determine place of residence -yes or no?
Every now and then, mothers write to me wanting concrete tips from me: "Does it make sense for me to apply for the right to determine place of residence or sole custody of my child? How much do you think I will succeed with this?" These women are not usually...
Why it does not take two to argue
This article is for you, dear outsider. For the mother's family members and not-so-close friends, for the neighbors, the children's teachers and educators, for the judges, the youth welfare workers, and yes, even for the guardians ad litem who are supposed to...
What boundaries do you need with a narcissistic ex?
In my German club of courageous mothers there are daily impulses to reflect and move forward. Some time ago, I asked the question of what necessary boundaries moms have not yet allowed themselves to set The answers that came out of this exercise were...
Why you shouldn’t let yourself be blackmailed, even if you could sink into the ground with shame
Have you forgiven yourself yet, sweetheart? That you chose this man? That you fathered a child (or two or three) with him? That you fell head over heels in love with him, even though there were such early signs of his mental disorder? That you allowed him to...
When you’re down
Sweetheart, if you just found and are reading this blog article, it's for a reason. And right up front, I'm sending you a very big hug. Let me assure you: The phase you're in right now will pass. Just like all the other bad phases in the past have passed....
SOS-Help for Moms with Toxic Ex Partners
I once asked my German group of strong mothers to find out what kind of help they found useful in the first and most difficult time, and which could help the mothers with toxic ex-partners in their greatest need the most. One thing became very clear: It...
Why sole custody won’t make you happy
A few weeks ago, I asked the moms in my German Brave Moms' Club a coaching question whose answers really surprised me. As a coach, I always have a certain expectation, but I really didn't expect this. The question was: "If you knew that 100% of the time...
The 3 best tricks to stop your thought carousel
It's enough to drive you crazy. Again and again, everything in your head goes around in circles. The carousel of thoughts accompanies you when you fall asleep, hinders you when you sleep through the night, and is the first thing that comes back when you wake...
Don’t believe your girlfriend!
How good it is for a woman to have a good friend to talk to in this phase of life - after the breakup with the toxic Ex and later, when the legal proceedings cause great turmoil in a mother's life. Do you have such a good friend? Then I'm very happy for you,...
Can you prevent your child from becoming a narcissist too?
This anxious question comes up from time to time with my customers and with the women in my Facebook group. What they would like most is a guide that they can work through step by step. Something they can hold on to and orient themselves by. You don't want...
Hello, my name is Heidi!
Single mom with a child and a dog. I coach moms with toxic exes and support you in how to be strong, calm and confident in your challenges with your ex. More about me ...