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How to start breaking free from the narcissistic ex
Okay, how can you get away from your narcissistic ex if you have one or even more children with him? It's easier than you think! And quite difficult if you don't yet allow yourself to think differently from those around you who have their own cliché ideas of...
War or Peace?
Be honest, sweetheart: How do you talk and write about your relationship with your toxic ex after the breakup? Are you talking about the “war with your ex” or, to put it bluntly, the “war of the roses”, do you shoot off a “cannon” every now and then, does a...
From being afraid to being brave – is that possible with a narcissist for a co-parent?
If you come from a toxic narcissistic relationship where you were manipulated and emotionally abused, it is very likely that you have built up a great deal of fear over time. For a pathological narcissist, it is of utmost importance that no one be allowed to...
Are you in a narcissistic relationship? A self-test.
This article is for all the moms out there who are still living with their children's father, but are very unhappy and keep wondering whether or not to separate. I want to be absolutely sure that we understand each other. That you know what I'm talking about...
How to better draw the line between yourself and your toxic Ex
How do you properly draw the line between yourself and other people? Are you confident that you can do so well enough? Or does this correspond more to your current reality? The toxic ex keeps calling during your contact time. Or he just comes to your...
When your preteen child is stressed about your toxic Ex
Are you familiar with this situation? Your 11-year-old son - in the middle of prepuberty - was the most ardent and loyal admirer of the child's father not long ago, and now he comes home more and more often and is mega frustrated and disappointed. What's...
Claiming the right to determine place of residence -yes or no?
Every now and then, mothers write to me wanting concrete tips from me: "Does it make sense for me to apply for the right to determine place of residence or sole custody of my child? How much do you think I will succeed with this?" These women are not usually...
Why it does not take two to argue
This article is for you, dear outsider. For the mother's family members and not-so-close friends, for the neighbors, the children's teachers and educators, for the judges, the youth welfare workers, and yes, even for the guardians ad litem who are supposed to...
What boundaries do you need with a narcissistic ex?
In my German club of courageous mothers there are daily impulses to reflect and move forward. Some time ago, I asked the question of what necessary boundaries moms have not yet allowed themselves to set The answers that came out of this exercise were...
Why you shouldn’t let yourself be blackmailed, even if you could sink into the ground with shame
Have you forgiven yourself yet, sweetheart? That you chose this man? That you fathered a child (or two or three) with him? That you fell head over heels in love with him, even though there were such early signs of his mental disorder? That you allowed him to...