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How to best deal with his Flying Monkeys
Do you know "Flying Monkeys" yet? The term is quite common in the narcissism "scene" and refers to the people in the narcissist's environment who openly support him. Flying Monkeys don't even have to act consciously and be "evil" or narcissistic themselves -...
What letting go actually means – and what it doesn’t
Do you feel the same way? That you have a problem understanding the term "letting go"? That you can't really "grasp" what you're supposed to "let go of" because everything feels like it's slipping through your hands since you broke up with that toxic Ex? I'd...
How do you get rid of your anger towards your toxic ex?
Do you know this? Your Ex constantly cancels visits at short notice and wants to postpone them. You can never be sure if he'll really be there on Friday afternoon at 5 p.m. or if he'll call you at 4:45 p.m. and cancel because "something came up". As a...
Silence at last! Or is it?
You realize at some point that for a week, a month, three months, a year, your toxic Ex has hardly been heard from - or even totally nice. No bitterly nasty email causing a stir in your inbox and in your head. No new petition to the court. No threats at child...
If only he would finally do what is right!
Do you think that every now and then - with a deep heaving sigh? If only he would finally do what I tell him to do, or what the judge or the mediator or the lady at the youth welfare office or the guardian ad litem or the neighbor have already told him to do!...
How to best deal with unspeakable advice from youth welfare services
If you have a toxic Ex, chances are you've had to go to Child Protective Services at least once. And - how did you fare there? Now, such an appointment is usually linked to a certain expectation: Either you hope for understanding and sympathy for you and your...
The crux of the “I’m smart, I know” creed
Well, do you know your stuff yet, sweetheart? Do you know all about narcissism and why, why, why your Ex ticks the way he does? Do you already know your way around family court? You know what your lawyer should actually do and you are also available to other...
How to approach your first family court hearing at your strongest
Now you have already done everything so your case does not have to go to family court. You have left the silverware in the apartment, the new car, which is still in your name but which he mainly drives, you bring him the children and pick them up again. You...
Hello, my name is Heidi!
Single mom with a child and a dog. I coach moms with toxic exes and support you in how to be strong, calm and confident in your challenges with your ex. More about me ...