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How to best deal with your toxic ex’s Next
I've noticed that I haven't written about the new wife at the toxic ex-partner's side in a long time. Is probably because she is actually not so much in the focus of the mothers who follow me. But when there is a Next, she too can become an emotional burden,...
Who’s to Blame?
Yes, sweetheart: who is actually to blame for the whole mess you're in right now? Your toxic ex? Yourself? Depending on what emotions are flooding you right now, you may find that this question triggers quite a bit, am I right? Back when I was grappling with...
What a court date, a child welfare office, and a mediation date have in common
In 2017, when I started focusing very specifically on mothers with toxic Ex partners in my coaching support, I perceived court dates to be the very biggest mental hurdle for "my" mothers. But what about a mediation appointment? Of course - from the stress...
How to set proper boundaries for yourself
Every morning in my Brave Moms Club, I have a powerful coaching prompt that invites moms to think extra hard about a topic and then comment. For example, the topic of "setting boundaries." This moves the whole community forward tremendously - most...
When you’re already through with everything – then what?
Again and again, mothers approach me, for whom the biggest stress is over after the separation. And it doesn't look like the Ex will go to court again. He hardly bothers you anymore. Everyone just goes his own way. The child is also out of the woods, has come...
Which fight is wise?
Mothers ask me all the time how they know which fight is wise. Because sooner or later they hear and read it - if not from me, then from others: Choose your battles wisely. Easier said than done - if only you had a battle to fight! A mother with a toxic...
Why you’re not attachment intolerant, your toxic ex is – and how to prove it
Have you heard of the most popular accusation - the biggest killer word - toxic fathers say to their children's mothers? "She's attachment intolerant!" Simply put, the mother is accused of not valuing the important relationships her child has and/or not...
What you should (NOT) wear to court – and why you’re better off keeping statements to yourself
Every now and then, there's a discussion on my group of strong mothers on Facebook about what's best to wear in court. To make a long story short: Wear what you feel confident and comfortable in. Please don't dress up! Perhaps just make sure your clothes are...
Stay brave
Every Monday, my members in the German Club of Courageous Mothers receive a very special MutMach newsletter. MutMach-Monday is a completely different number than MutMach-Friday, which goes out weekly to my subscribers. In MutMach Monday, I accompany the...
When toxic grandparents get involved
I know there are many, many grandparents who suffer horribly when their child has been with a toxic person and now has to fight for their grandchild in court. It doesn't matter if it's the son or the daughter. And many want to help and not just stand idly by...
Hello, my name is Heidi!
Single mom with a child and a dog. I coach moms with toxic exes and support you in how to be strong, calm and confident in your challenges with your ex. More about me ...